Penny Bail Bonds Anger Tips
By Anthony Fiore, Ph.D.
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Anger Tip # 12- To Influence Others, Calmly Deliver Consequences to Bad Behavior

Image the following scenario. You are speeding in your car, perhaps going 50 miles an hour in a 35 mile an hour zone. You pass a policeman on the corner that has no way to stop you. He sees you however, and reacts by jumping up and down, shouting threats about giving you a ticket, and turning red-faced.
Now, imaging a second scene. This time you look in your rear-view mirror and see that dreaded red light flashing for you to pull over. The officer calmly and respectfully tells you that you are speeding, writes a ticket and says that he’ll see you in court on a specific date where you’ll probably pay a fine of $250.
Which scenario would most likely cause you to change your speeding behavior? Most people admit that the second scenario is much more powerful.
People often get exasperated with certain behaviors of others in their lives and handle their feelings by yelling or shouting threats that are non-enforceable. Much better to calmly deliver consequences to behavior. Why? Because it is much more effective.
Rather than demand that others change in ways you want them to, it is much more effective to communicate what the consequences may be in terms of their relationship with you if they don’t change. And then deliver! That gives them the choice of changing or not.
Managers find this very effective on the job: “If you continue to be late, we will have to write you up”
Parents find this effective with children: “You must finish your homework before you talk to your friends on the phone.”
Couples might apply this principal in the following way: “Because of how you were at the last party, if you start drinking too much tonight, I will leave.”
Remember, in the long run, calmness, follow-through, and consistency are much better behavior-modifiers than anger outbursts, empty threats, or hysterical dramatizations.

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